In a world where no one knows what's fake anymore, authenticity is your competitive advantage.

We're living in a weird time. AI-generated everything. Deepfakes.

Your customers are exhausted from trying to figure out what's real and what's not. This is your opportunity. The brands and founders winning right now?

They're the ones talking to their customers like trusted friends, not prospects, not "target audiences," not "leads." Friends.

And here's what the research actually shows about why this works:

The psychology of trust (because data matters)

Behavioral psychology (Fun fact: this is actually what I went to college for) tells us something fascinating about human decision-making: We don't buy from brands we like.

​We buy from people we trust. It's built through three psychological principles:

1. Reciprocity - When you give value first (real insights, honest guidance, actual help), people naturally want to reciprocate.

2. Consistency - When your actions match your words over time, the brain registers you as "safe." This is why authenticity compounds. One genuine conversation builds trust.

3. Social proof - But not the fake kind. Real humans want to be around other real humans who "get it." When you show up authentically, you attract your people.

   
   

The ones having real conversations? They're building something that lasts.

Here's what that actually looks like.

Real trust-building isn't about being "vulnerable" for engagement or "relatable" for likes.

It's about understanding their pain - Not surface-level stuff. The real frustration keeping them up at night. The thing they're almost embarrassed to admit because they think they "should" have figured it out by now.

It's about knowing their psychology - What do they actually care about? What drives their decisions? What are they optimizing for? Is it speed, sustainability, impact, freedom? You can't help people if you don't understand how they think.

It's about being intentional with how you help by empowering them with knowledge. Make them smarter, more informed, more capable. Don't gatekeep. Don't create dependency. Build them up.

The result? Trust. And trust is the only thing that converts. If your marketing feels transactional, scripted, or like it came from a template then guess what? Your audience can tell.​Their brains are wired to detect inauthenticity. It's a survival mechanism.

That’s why I built my E3 Framework, the backbone of everything I teach and implement. It’s built on three pillars:

Empathy​: Understanding your audience as humans with real challenges, real goals, and real lives and meeting them where they are.

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Education: Providing value that actually helps, simplifies, or clarifies.

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Empowerment​: Giving people the tools, clarity, and confidence to take the next step, whether that’s buying, learning, or growing

Your branding, your messaging, your sales automations, your website, your social media. Literally, all the things.

And my goal is simple: help good people doing good work build marketing directly INTO their systems and operations.

These three elements make your marketing feel better to create and work better for your audience.

And when they’re integrated into your operations, everything aligns: your message, your systems, your growth, your impact.

And I believe that in a world full of fake everything, being genuinely good is the smartest thing you can do.

Next week, I'll talk about how Agentic SEO/AEO is actually rewarding this type of content.

More resources, tools, and support are coming and now you know the foundation they’re built on.

You know your product inside and out. You can recite features, benefits, and use cases in your sleep. But here's the uncomfortable truth: your customers don't care about any of that—at least not yet.

Most founders make the same mistake. They market from their own perspective, talking about what they've built rather than what their customers actually need. The result? Marketing that feels transactional, messaging that misses the mark, and campaigns that don't convert.

The solution isn't more tactics. It's a fundamental shift in how you approach your marketing: learning to think like your customer.

When you truly understand how your customers think, what keeps them up at night, and how they make decisions, everything changes. Your messaging resonates. Your content connects. Your marketing stops feeling like shouting into the void.

Here's how to make that shift.

Why Most Founders Struggle to Think Like Customers

The Founder's Blind Spot

You're too close to your product. You've spent months (or years) building it, refining it, obsessing over every detail. You know every feature, every integration, every benefit.

But your customers don't have that context. They're not starting where you are—they're starting with a problem, a frustration, or a goal. They don't care about your product until they understand how it solves their specific challenge.

The disconnect: Founders talk about solutions before customers even recognize they have a problem worth solving.

Marketing from the Inside Out

When you market from your perspective, it looks like this:

• "Our platform offers advanced analytics and customizable dashboards..."

• "We provide end-to-end solutions for enterprise organizations..."

• "Built with cutting-edge technology and seamless integrations..."

It's accurate. It's comprehensive. And it completely misses the mark.

Why? Because customers aren't thinking about "advanced analytics." They're thinking: "I need to know which marketing channels are actually driving revenue so I can stop wasting budget on stuff that doesn't work."

See the difference?

The Customer-First Thinking Framework

Here's how to shift from founder-centric thinking to customer-centric marketing:

Step 1: Map the Customer Journey (From Their Perspective)

Stop thinking about your sales funnel. Start thinking about their buying journey.

Ask yourself:

• What problem are they experiencing before they even know we exist?

• What triggers them to start looking for a solution?

• What questions do they have at each stage?

• What objections or fears come up during their decision process?

• What happens after they buy? What do they need to succeed?

Example from B2B SaaS:

Instead of "awareness → consideration → decision," think:

1. Problem Recognition: "Our reporting takes 10 hours a week and I still can't tell what's working"

2. Solution Exploration: "There has to be a better way to track this"

3. Evaluation: "Which tool will actually save me time without adding complexity?"

4. Decision: "Can I trust this company? Will implementation be a nightmare?"

5. Implementation: "I need this to work immediately. I don't have time for a learning curve."

When you map the journey from their perspective, your messaging shifts from "here's what we do" to "here's what you're experiencing, and here's how we make it better."

Step 2: Understand Their Psychology (Not Just Their Pain Points)

Most founders stop at identifying pain points. But customer psychology goes deeper.

Ask these questions:

What do they actually want? Not the surface-level answer ("better marketing results") but the underlying desire ("to look competent in front of my CEO," "to stop feeling overwhelmed," "to prove this was worth the investment").

What are they afraid of?

• Making the wrong decision

• Wasting time and money

• Looking foolish to their team

• Adding more complexity to their already chaotic systems

• Being held accountable for poor results

What do they value?

• Time (busy founders don't have hours for implementation)

• Simplicity (they're already juggling 50 things)

• Proof (they need to see it works before committing)

• Control (they want to maintain autonomy)

• Results (they need wins, not promises)

Example: If you're selling marketing software to founders, your customer isn't just buying "better analytics." They're buying peace of mind, confidence in their decisions, and the ability to sleep at night knowing their marketing actually works.

When you understand this, your messaging shifts from features to outcomes that matter emotionally.

Step 3: Listen to How They Actually Talk

Your customers use different language than you do. They don't say "optimize our marketing stack" or "increase operational efficiency." They say:

• "I'm drowning in data but have no idea what to do with it"

• "I feel like I'm just guessing what will work"

• "I'm spending hours on marketing that isn't moving the needle"

• "I need to know if this is actually worth the time and money"

Where to find their actual language:

• Customer calls and demos (record and review them)

• Support tickets and emails

• Reviews (yours and competitors')

• Reddit, LinkedIn comments, industry forums

• Sales calls (what questions do they ask repeatedly?)

Use their exact words in your messaging. When customers see their own language reflected back, they think: "This company gets me."

Step 4: Identify Decision-Making Patterns

How do your customers actually make decisions?

Ask:

• Do they research exhaustively or make quick decisions?

• Do they need social proof or do they trust their gut?

• Are they comparing 10 options or choosing the first one that feels right?

• Do they involve a team or decide alone?

• What would make them say "yes" today vs. "I need to think about it"?

Example from B2B:

Most B2B buyers don't make quick decisions. They need:

1. Social proof (who else uses this?)

2. Risk mitigation (what if it doesn't work?)

3. Clear ROI (how will this impact my business?)

4. Implementation clarity (how hard is this to set up?)

5. Peer validation (what do people like me think?)

When you understand their decision-making process, you can address objections before they become blockers.

How to Use Customer Thinking in Your Messaging

Now that you understand how your customers think, here's how to translate that into messaging that connects:

Reframe Your Value Proposition

Instead of: "We provide AI-powered marketing analytics"

Try: "Stop guessing which marketing channels work. Know exactly where to invest your budget for maximum ROI."

See the difference? The first is about you. The second is about their frustration and desired outcome.

Lead with Their Problem, Not Your Solution

Instead of: "Our platform helps you track marketing performance"

Try: "Spending hours pulling reports but still can't tell which campaigns are driving revenue? Here's what's missing."

Start where they are. Acknowledge their struggle. Then position your solution as the bridge to where they want to be.

Use Their Language

Instead of: "Optimize your go-to-market strategy with data-driven insights"

Try: "Figure out what's actually working in your marketing so you can stop wasting money on stuff that doesn't"

The second version sounds like something a real person would say. It's conversational, direct, and focused on their outcome.

Address Hidden Objections

Customers have fears they won't tell you about. Address them proactively:

• "Most tools take weeks to implement. Ours works in 15 minutes."

• "You won't need a data scientist to understand this."

• "Cancel anytime, no contracts, no BS."

• "Built by founders who've been exactly where you are."

When you acknowledge their fears without them having to ask, trust builds immediately.

The Customer Empathy Exercise

Here's a practical exercise to help you think like your customer:

Step 1: Become Your Customer for a Day

Literally walk through their experience:

• Sign up for your own product as if you're a new customer

• Read your website like you've never seen it before

• Go through your onboarding like you don't know what you're doing

• Try to find answers to common questions

Where do you get confused? Frustrated? Overwhelmed?

Step 2: Interview 5 Customers

Ask open-ended questions:

• "What was happening in your business when you started looking for a solution?"

• "What almost stopped you from signing up?"

• "What convinced you to choose us?"

• "What was harder than expected? What was easier?"

• "If you were describing us to a colleague, what would you say?"

Record these conversations. Listen for patterns in their language and concerns.

Step 3: Create Customer Personas (But Make Them Real)

Don't create fake personas based on demographics. Create real profiles based on psychology:

Example: "Overwhelmed Olivia"

• Who she is: Marketing Director at a $2M SaaS company

• What she's dealing with: Too many tools, not enough clarity on what's working

• What keeps her up: Fear of recommending the wrong strategy to her CEO

• What she values: Simplicity, proof, quick wins

• Her decision process: Needs to see it work before fully committing

• Her language: "I just need something that works without adding more complexity"

Now write your messaging for Olivia. How would you talk to her? What would resonate?

Common Mistakes When Trying to Think Like Customers

Mistake #1: Assuming You Know Without Asking

You think you know what customers want, but you're projecting your own assumptions. Always validate with real conversations.

Mistake #2: Focusing Only on Pain Points

Pain points are important, but they're not the whole picture. Understand aspirations, fears, values, and decision-making patterns too.

Mistake #3: Using Customer Language Superficially

Just sprinkling in a few casual phrases doesn't cut it. Your entire messaging framework should be built from their perspective.

Mistake #4: Forgetting Customers Change

What mattered to customers six months ago might not matter now. Keep listening. Keep evolving.

What Customer-Centric Marketing Looks Like in Practice

Before Customer-First Thinking:

Website headline: "The All-in-One Marketing Platform for Growing Businesses"

Email subject: "Introducing Our New Analytics Dashboard"

Social post: "Check out our latest feature release!"

After Customer-First Thinking:

Website headline: "Finally Know What's Actually Working in Your Marketing (Without Spending Hours in Spreadsheets)"

Email subject: "Stop guessing which campaigns drive revenue"

Social post: "You're spending 10 hours a week on reports that don't tell you what to do next. Here's what's missing."

See how the second set speaks directly to customer frustrations and desired outcomes? That's thinking like a customer.

The ROI of Customer-First Marketing

When you truly think like your customers:

• Your messaging resonates because it addresses real frustrations, not imagined ones

• Your conversion rates improve because you're speaking their language

• Your content gets shared because it feels like you "get it"

• Your sales cycles shorten because you've addressed objections proactively

• Your customer retention improves because you're solving problems that actually matter

This isn't about manipulation or clever copywriting tricks. It's about genuine empathy—understanding your customers so well that your marketing feels like a conversation with a trusted advisor who truly gets what they're going through.

Your Next Steps

Here's what to do this week:

1. Interview 2-3 customers (current or past). Ask about their journey, not your product.

2. Audit your homepage through a customer's eyes. Where do you talk about yourself vs. their needs?

3. Rewrite one key piece of messaging using customer language and perspective. Test it.

4. Set up a system to capture customer language (record calls, save emails, bookmark reviews).

5. Create one customer persona based on real conversations, not assumptions.

The best marketing doesn't feel like marketing. It feels like someone finally understands what you're going through—and has a real solution.

That's what happens when you learn to think like your customer.

Ready to Build Customer-Centric Marketing?

If you're tired of marketing that feels like guesswork and ready to build messaging that actually connects, let's talk.

At Drive Growth Partners, we use an audit-first approach to understand your customers' real needs, psychology, and decision-making patterns—then build marketing strategies that align with how they actually think.

Book a 30-minute strategy call and we'll help you shift from founder-centric to customer-centric marketing.

Or download our Customer Empathy Worksheet to start mapping your customer's journey from their perspective.